My Greatest Fear is Losing My Family

Being a parent is very challenging in life. We have to do our best just to live in this world with no parent. We have to do everything to be a good person whenever there is not an elder one. It is very hard for us to live without a parent. Everyone needs a parent in our side. We all know that we live in this world, but soon we all leave here.

My greatest fear is losing my family.  I am really scared to lose my parents because I really don’t know what to do, I don’t know what to do in life and I don’t know how to live in this world without parents. I’m scared of losing them because I know i can’t live with my own. I can’t be a dependent person. In my age, I really need a parent to guide me in everything I do in my life, to punish me when I did something wrong and to be proud of me of what i’ve done in life. Everything that I’d succeed in life, I’d like them to witness it. It is really hard for me when I’m alone, I don’t know what is my future without them. I can’t really stand on my own feet, but one thing is for sure, I will never get tired to do something good that they can be proud of. Every time I think about my “what ifs”, what if my parent is gone can I really do this on my own? What if I can’t live without them? I’m scared that my what ifs has become true. I don’t know if I can carry all the sadness in my life.

The sunshine of my world becomes a cloud of grey. I will lose my strength if I lose them. They are my strength at all times. I know that no one can defend that, they are my strength. My parent is important to me, so I couldn’t just leave them and I can’t live without them.

Therefore, everyone of us should have a parent to guide us. Because if they were not, there is a possibility that a child should not be able to stand on their own feet. The child will be jealous of other children because they have their parents to guide them in the house or at school. The sadness will affect will affect my entire life. As long as you have parents treasure them, let them feel the love that they always wanted. You are so lucky if you have a complete family around you. Because there are a lot of kids who have broken family and no one will teach them the Do’s and Don’ts. No one will remind them how beautiful life is to be lived and how beautiful to have a complete family. A family is my extension of life. Family is the most important influence in child’s life.

Essay 2

I was sitting in my bedroom. Ten-year-old me, playing with my barbie dolls. I’d just returned home from dance. My house seemed different; I could sense fear drifting through the air. Something wasn’t right, like I had just walked into a broken home of hell.

Mum had just informed me that we needed to talk. As I sat down on the comforting chair, dad walked over and sat across from me. I felt as if the whole house had shrunk into a tiny box; I was claustrophobic. I felt my lungs creeping out of my throat for their last gasp of air. The hairs along my spine activated chills that ran throughout my whole body. I knew in that moment something was wrong. I knew in that moment my life was going to change and it would never go back to normal ever again.

That was over six years ago, and now, as a teenager, I think it was good that my parents split up. I realised my house wasn’t broken, but as I child I still vividly recall the confusion. It was an excruciating reality that has taken all these years to acknowledge and appreciate.

I looked anxiously at mum who had disappointment written all across her face. Tears swelled up in my eyes, I sensed what was coming but I didn’t ever think it would happen to my family. After a lead up of lines – which felt like an eternity, mum and dad finally announced, “we are splitting up”. It felt as if my whole world had been turned upside down. It would never be the same again.

I felt bad for both of them, but a voice inside me wanted to choose between them, who gets the blame; and I hated it! I hated having to choose a side. As much as I wanted a place to belong, I couldn’t choose! It’s like I was trapped inside a ball of conflict, with no way out. I don’t want to be on anyone’s side- I’m just lost in my own thoughts.

Some of my friends that I danced with had split parents. Some of them saw both, but some of them only saw one. I was scared, I didn’t know what to do. I just wish mum and dad could see what was happening inside my head, I wish they could see how much my heart was hurting, but they couldn’t. I told myself that I’m a fighter and I can get through this battlefield, no matter how long it takes.

In all the confusion, I look back and appreciate that six years ago my home felt broken and was filled with negative energy that couldn’t be contained. But now I realise that that moment in time helped me be shaped into the person I am today. All it took was trust and change to dry my tears and push through the pain.

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