The Main Characteristics of an Ethical Leader

Ethical and Moral are sometimes used interchangeably because they are both related to what is right and wrong, however, they are not the same. Ethics refers to rules provided by an external source. It refers to the value judgment that we make when we communicate. For example, ethics is mostly found in the workplace, such as the code of conduct.

Teachers, doctors, lawyers, even policemen have to follow an ethical code. An otherworldly, ethics is an underlying rule that people follow regardless of their preference and feelings. It tells you how to behave as an objective and transparent manner. It helps protects someone. Moral is individuals own principle about what is right from wrong. It is not written in any subject guideline for someone to follow but it is someone's own gut feeling about what is good and bad.

A person with strong virtuous values is likely to act in a more ethical way than someone who is operating with a weak value system. I picked Hitler as a past leader who I believe cast a shadow. He worshiped strength and placed willpower on a pedestal. He hates to seem like someone who is weak and compassionate. Strength and violence are his nobility, and he had no shame in crushing the weak people.

His abusive childhood, his poverty, and humiliation as a young man made a mark on his dread of weakness and fear of worthlessness. He was obsessed with proving that he was strong. And tried so hard to prove his strength, to that of Germany’s. He has all the trait of who we don't want as a leader. He cast shadows by killing the Jews and overpower people to follow him. It doesn't matter what kind of a leader someone is, in this case, Hitler was a military leader but a bad leader overall.

According to psychology today mentioning Freud’s assumptions about the human psyche. Its hard not to agree, personally, but other people have there one opinion. “behavior is motivated by the internal or the psychological forces, and abnormality is caused by an imbalance in the internal forces that motivate behavior.”

When we talk about someone having an evil side or a dark side we call attention to our most aggressive and our anti-social instincts. The bloodthirsty presumably lurking deep within us. Acting out of an impulse that would disrupt others’ lives like killing the Jews because of power, like the "Romanian woman who was snatched from a London street and trafficked as a sex slave" serves as powerful reminders of the existence of evil. "she was kidnapped in broad daylight just yards from her home in March 2011".

We all have an edge a temper and everybody has a line if someone cross brings out another side to them. The point that I am trying to make is that everyone has a dark side. But there is a misconception that its something to fear. Yes, but when we are afraid of something its hard to change it or fix it. "if the objective of this world were to make man as comfortable as possible, then natural evil would be unjustifiable."

I am not saying to go and kidnapping people and use them as sexual enslavement but it best to acknowledge the evil and understand where it streaming from therefor one can do something about it. Rather if it is taking to a professional or going skydiving depending on what the person needs or to release some adrenaline. Jillian is a mentor, speaker, and a writer who focused on personal development.

Wheeler states that there are four steps to forgiveness: uncover our anger, we all experience anger a lot of us hide it from others and allowing it to snowball. "Buy a notebook and designate it your “Anger Journal.” Write down what you know you are angry about, with whom you are angry, and how that anger has impacted you." Secondly, to decide to forgive; some people when they are angry with someone it’s hard to forgive.

"Holding on to anger doesn’t hurt the other person. It hurts you. It produces all kinds of stress chemicals that flood your body and make you sick, physically and emotionally. "Thirdly, work on forgiveness, it's important to work to this due to our id, and ego, allowing it almost impossible to understand why we should forgive.

I use an approach called reframing. Reframing allows us to look at the original offense in a new way. for example, by trying to understand why, or get in the bottom of the reason why the person hurt us or made us angry. Four, release our emotions from the prison. She mentions that we are not alone especially when we are going through pain and suffering it important that when we are feeling such a way, It may be helpful now to reach out to a support group. Ephesians 4: 32 "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." Colossians 3:13 "bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive."

I definitely have struggled with forgiving people for things they’ve done, but I also know that forgiveness isn’t about them at all, it’s about me and healing from whatever it was they did. It doesn’t mean I’ve forgotten any of it, not at all, but I’ve let go of the toxicity of holding on to that energy. Overall, If God can forgive us then why can't we forgive? God wants us to be a conduit through which his character flows through he tells Paul in 1 Corinthians to comfort one another with the comfort where we have comforted like wat monkey see monkey do.