Analysis of The Chinese Parenting Style

Chinese people has one of the world’s oldest cultures, this ancient culture has many social, communication, spiritual values that are respectful and could be implemented in raising up the Canadian children in their early ages. In Chinese culture, they give the family a great value, so kids are very loyal to their parents and there is a great respect to the older people, also Chinese children are supposed to take care of their parents when they grow up and they are raised on these concepts.

As their parenting style is strict on education, the children feel very stressful when they from preschool and they need to have extra classes on weekends. Chinese parents expect towards their children to have a positive attitude and they also expect them to work hard on studying at school and home.

Children should not talk before they go to bed or when they eat because it is impolite, and it is harmful to their health. In addition, children will be extremely respectful toward elders. For example, when they eat something with elders, they must sit first, and the children sit later and the elder eat first because it is respectful and polite. When they go to restaurant, the oldest person or important person sits in the middle.

As traditional Chinese parenting style has been labeled as “authoritarian” by some researchers, Chinese children tend to obey their parents, depends on parents. Some good parents respect their children’s thoughts and opinions. Different cultures value different concept, Chinese and western parents naturally differ. Chinese parents not only differ in family customs but they also have different goals set for their children.

In Chinese culture there is more involvement of parents in children’s life. Chinese parents take most of their children's responsibilities until they have found a life partner. Due to this Chinese children always rely on their parents for financial and emotional support. Unlike their Western counterparts, most Chinese parents emphasize academic skills above all other skills, including interpersonal skills. Because of this, to Westerners, Chinese children might seem less mature in their interpersonal communication and relationships. However, Chinese children always perform well in their studies and achieve high grades to please their parents. The Chinese parent’s desire to see his child perform well in school often is related to their hope for a child’s success at an older age. As the care-taker role switches from parent to child after a child marries, parents want their children to earn a successful living to support the family.

We can raise these positive concepts in the Canadian children by teaching them to respect the elder and not talking to them inappropriately , we can make them feel responsible towards their parents, when they grow up by attracting their attention that their parents give good care for them when they are little and when parents grow up they will need them to be by their side supporting them, maybe we can take them for a trip to elderly's house and ask them to help elder people in simple tasks so they can feel the responsibility.

In conclusion, chinese people have an interesting way they use to show respect to the person who is talking or asking a question which is silence, “silence is important and purposeful tool used in Chinese communication it could mean respect, agreement, trying to have a decision, pausing before answering is very important to give a right opinion or giving the right response which a positive aspect in the Chinese culture and could be taught to the Canadian children to think before talking or giving a response.

References

• Chinese Culture: Customs & Traditions of China. (n.d.).
• Proceedings of the 2019 International Conference on Economic Management and Cultural Industry (ICEMCI 2019). (n.d.). 
• Verial, D. (1970, September 26). Beliefs, Values and Customs of Chinese Parents.