My Expirirence of Overcoming Shyness

Shyness will make you feel uncomfortable, self-conscious, nervous, bashful, timid, or insecure. Individuals who are shy typically notice physical sensations like blushing or feeling speechless, shaky, or breathless. Shyness is the opposite of being at relaxed with yourself around others. When people feel shy, they would hesitate to mention or do one thing as a result of them feeling unsure of themselves and they’re not ready to be noticed. Most people find that the more they practice socializing, the easier it gets. Getting over my shyness has really helped me. Being shy, holds you back from several opportunities. The following steps below have helped me overcome my shyness. Acting confidently, engaging, trying new things, getting out of your comfort zone, avoiding negative media, and focusing yourself can help you overcome shyness, build confidence, and get more enjoyment from everyday experiences.

1. Act confidently. Confidence comes through action, learning, practice, and mastery. Social confidence works the same way. Feeling anxious is not the problem; avoiding social interactions is the problem. Eliminate dodging and you will overcome your fear.
2. Engage. Participating in small talk in the checkout line, stores, sporting events, and the gym. Be a part of a club, a sports team, or an improv class. Pick up a new project, take on a difficult task at work, or learn a new skill. Do something to get out of your comfort zone. Part of overcoming shyness is about developing confidence in several areas of your life and not letting anxiety, concern of failure, concern of rejection, or concern of humiliation get in your way. By practicing new activities, you’re tackling your concern fear of the unknown and learning to handle anxiety more effectively.
3. Talk. Begin practicing giving speeches or presentations and telling jokes or stories at every opportunity. Be more talkative and expressive in all areas of your life. Whether you’re at work, with friends, with strangers, or walking down the street, you can practice talking more openly. Let your voice and your ideas be heard. Confident people are not preoccupied with whether everyone is going to like what they have to say. They speak their mind as a result of they want to share, engage, and connect with others. You can do this too. Anxiety and shyness are not reasons to stay quiet.
4. Get out of Your Comfort Zone. Don’t hide from difficult social situations. Seek them out. If something makes you uncomfortable, it’s a good sign that you should work on it. Get out of your shell, and embrace discomfort. It’s comfortable to be around people who are similar to us. The problem is when we’re learning how to overcome shyness we don’t get positive examples to change our behavior. It’s too easy to stay the same when our closest influences hold us back. Find more outgoing friends. You can find them at social events or on recreational sports teams. Watch what they do, and you might learn something.
5. Stay Away from Negative News Media. Pumping our minds full of media junk is a sure way to increase a general feeling of discomfort. When we’re trying to work on our confidence, anything that causes a bad outlook on life has to go! Every little thing counts, so don’t consume the daily bad news that the media uses to get clicks. While negative news makes you feel bad, positive media can make you feel better. Watch inspirational videos, read uplifting stories, and get your daily dose of personal development.
6. Focus on yourself and not them. Everyone thinks the whole room is watching them, judging them. When no one is. They’re just as nervous, insecure, shy, and worried as you are. Learn how to visualize yourself in different scenarios, talking to people. This will give you more confidence to speak since you’ve already ‘been there’ in your mind. Before going to a social event, rehearse what you’ll say to open conversations. What will you say and do when someone approaches you? How will you respond? How will you approach other people? Although scripting an entire conversation isn’t possible or desirable, practicing the opening and exit for a conversation will give you more confidence.

Every social situation you put yourself in is a mini social-skills workout. The more you do it, the better you get. You might also reject many opportunities to go out and have fun because of your concern of meeting new people. Modesty is nice but it can stop you from doing all the things you undertake.

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