The Different Factors Affecting Personality Formation

In the past sixteen years I have faced various challenges that have molded my personality to as it is today. I went through a very tough stage in my social life when I was in grade seven and eight at the age of twelve and thirteen. I had a group of five friends outside of school, we were always together and they were all very close to my heart. It came to the point where three of the girls decided that they did not want to associate with one other, and I was forced to choose between the three of them and the other girl. It was a feeling of indescribable disbelief and I did not know what to do. This one incident was a challenge that I had to overcome. It all happened so quickly. One minute she was our dear friend and the next minute everyone was yelling at her. At first I stood there and listened. I did not utter a single word. And then, in the heat of the moment, I began saying things to her. I didn't even know where any of it was coming from. There was a pause, and that was when I realized what was happening.

A friendship with someone so close to me was about to end. I couldn't understand why I got involved. Although I did not say quite as much as the others, I did say something. I had hurt my friend. At the blink of an eye, she was not my friend anymore and I knew things would never be the same again. I could not let things stay the way they were. I reflected on the incident as I sat in my bed that night. Things could have been different. It did not have to happen the way it did. I could have done something or said anything to change things. Questions filled my head, all I could feel was guilt and an empty feeling in my heart. I decided that I had to do something, I could not just sit around knowing that my good friend was feeling so low and unwanted. Something told me that it was up to me to change things and make it right between her and I.

Although the situation seems negative I was able to take a very positive lesson away. I learned all about self satisfaction and how important it really is. It did not matter about the other girls and their relationship towards this one girl. Once I made amends with her everything seemed much better. I learned that it is important to live my life the way I want it and as long as I do that I will be happy. If confronted with a similar situation now, I would not let the problem persist. My struggle taught me to identify situations in which drastic changes need to take place, and then take steps to remedy the situation. I have gained self-confidence as a result of this victory and know that this confidence will always see me through any tough times that lie ahead.