The Way Sincerity Can Play a Bad Game

I have encountered countless situations where my sincerity was tested. I don’t even remember all. But, there is a situation that I could not forget. When I was a 2nd year college student, one of my batch mates asked me if he could court me. I did not want to hurt his feelings by telling the truth that he is not my type. Instead, I said that I am flattered, but being in a relationship may affect my studies. Despite of what I said, he became more persistent on courting me. Maybe, he thought that he has a chance of making me fall for him and wanted to prove that what I said was wrong. I was annoyed by his persistence, so I told him the reasons using harsh words. He walked away with teary eyes. I felt a sense of guilt and pity for him.

When I didn’t say to him the real reason in the very beginning, it worsened the situation. He walked away with teary eyes. I ended up telling him some harsh words. I thought not telling the truth was better than hurting him, and not a big deal. But, it didn’t turn out that way. As such, I can attest to the saying “you need a thousand lies to cover up one lie.” Sometimes, it really is not worth it. In certain situations, telling even a small lie doesn’t seem like a big deal, but in the long run, it brings nothing but hurt.

As an employee I can say thet sincerity is doing orders or tasks with pure intention which can result in reliability. Society is built on trust. We go to department stores expecting clerks to give us the true prices of merchandise. We believe food is okay to eat when there is an expiration date listed by a reliable company. To be just and sincere means serve people without discrimination and deceit respectively. Justness and sincerity must go together. To serve people with sincerity or without deceit, I must make impartial decision in dealing with a particular situation or a person. I should not make decision based on a person’s socioeconomic status, religion, etc.

Nevertheless, from the first situation I have learned a moral lesson. The sincere truth might often be painful to hear; that’s why, I make sure that I deliver it in a way that won’t lead other people to get defensive. Because in the end, truth that comes from a place of love and consideration will be appreciated.