Advantages and Disadvantages of Gay Adoption and Gay Parenting

For years Gay parenting has been looking at differently in society. In the media, in the politics and in history. It has been viewed as a bad influence to some people and a good influence to the others. There are some major issues and challenges to the gay parents who are risking it all to care for a child. Gay parenting should be viewing the same as heterosexual parents to teach the world about it. Many issues regarding this have been brought up that even they are concerned about what may happen. There are advantages and disadvantages of being a gay parenting, but they can show to their children there is nothing to be afraid of. They can show the children how to be involved in the different diversity of families and friends. Children with gay parenting are easily bully. Raise children to be confident in what they choose to be like.

With being a gay parenting they can teach kids the different diversity of families and friends. The kids can learn a new environment that surrounds them and guide them. According to Pappas (2012) gay parenting may be the best at parenting, Gay parents 'tend to be more motivated, more committed than heterosexual parents on average, because they c hose to be parents,' said Abbie Goldberg, a psychologist at Clark University in Massachusetts who researches gay and lesbians. Gays and lesbians rarely become parents by accident, compared with an almost 50 percent accidental pregnancy rate among heterosexuals, Goldberg said. 'That translates to greater commitment on average and more involvement.' With gay parenting the same-sex couple can bring out their kids most emotion that neither the hetersexual parents, they may be well confident around anyone anyone instead of having fear.

The same-sex couple who have children can sometimes, be the kids that are easily bully in class just by having gay parents. A few months back I wrote that my son had never been bullied at his Texas public school. Perhaps it was inevitable, given that waylon is in third grade now, but a week or two later there was an incident (Schilt et al., 2015). Children with gay parents are hurts sometimes but its good that they are able to communicate with their parents, to converse with them about the stuff that happen at school. Even so they have the confidence to talk to them. With the bullying it can even continue on to high school and college. Throughout elementary and high school, bullying was a big part of my experience. By 10th grade, I even had a bully on the public bus I would take to and from school. This went on for two years. Things got so bad that I became depressed, isolated, and even considered suicide. As an adult who survived bullying, I became a high school music teacher who focused on building confidence and self esteem and I, once again, was immersed in an environment where bullying was an everyday reality. I was determined to make a difference for my students.

It is not easy for the kids as they grow up and face it in their teen year while being judge for having gay parents. It may cause some misfortune if they are continuing suffering from the bullies. Some of the parents talks about how the same-sex marriage destroy kids. In a 2005 survey about gay bullying statistics teens reported that the number two reasons they are bullied is because of the actual or perceived sexual orientation or gender expression. The number one reason reported was because of appearance. Teens are at a pivotal point in their young adult life when they are trying to find out who they are and who they are about to become as adults. That is why being teased, bullied and harassed is something that could negatively affect a person's self esteem and view of themselves for the rest of their life (Ardines, 2020).

The third thing that may be able to help kids with gay parents is that they are raise to be confident in what they choose to like. Many of those who oppose gay marriage and gay adoption charge that same-sex parents aren't good for kids, and that a child needs both a father and a mother to grow up to be a healthy adult. Research, however, shows that children of gay parents tend to fare just fine. Most research studies show that children with two moms or two dads fare just as well as children with heterosexual parents. In fact, one comprehensive study of children raised by lesbian mothers or gay fathers concluded that children raised by same-sex parents did not differ from other children in terms of emotional functioning, sexual orientation, stigmatization, gender role behavior, behavioral adjustment, gender identity, learning and grade point averages. Where research differences have been found, they have sometimes favored same-sex parents (Linville & O'neil, 2002).

Studies that show the kids with gay parents are also same with the kids that have heterosexual parents. They are also raised the same way as the kids whose parents are straight. For example, adolescents with same-sex parents reported feeling more connected at school. Another study reported that children in gay and lesbian households are more likely to talk about emotionally difficult topics, and they are often more resilient, compassionate and tolerant. The same concerns that face many heterosexual parents when they are deciding to have children also face same-sex parents including time, money, and responsibilities of parenthood. Likewise, many of the parenting tasks faced by same-sex parents are similar to those faced by heterosexual parents, such as providing appropriate structure for children, while also being warm and accepting, setting limits, teaching open and honest communication, healthy conflict resolution, and monitoring of child’s peer network and extracurricular activities.

As gay parents are also being treated nonexstitent they also have the ability to care for a child. There may be advantages and disadvantages as they are judged by society by the way they raise a child in their home. Gay people have been accused of being unfit parents, more likely to be pedophiles, unable to sustain lasting relationships, and worse. But research shows these and other myths just aren't based in fact. Gay parents are fit to be parents just like any other straight parents. The advantages of being a gay parent is that they are able to adopt or even gave their home out to the orphan. The kids are growing up in a loving home, clear benefit for the children.

Research has shown that the kids of same-sex couples both adopted and biological kids fare no worse than the kids of straight couples on mental health, social functioning, school performance and a variety of other life-success measures (Pappas, 2012). There is no difference between straight parents and gay parents. They love and support their kids with all they have. Gay parents aim to build their new family and home to orphans. Thus, they will have the chance to show these children how they care for their kids. Likewise, they will have a chance to provide the child with a complete family that they were unable to experience before. The advantages that the kids who were in or moving from foster care to foster care can experience is what it is like to have a new family. Children will finally experience growing in a home filled with love and affection. This is because gay parents have the knowledge to motivate children to grow up in appreciation of their life (Shares, 2017).

And of course there are also a disadvantages’ side to being a gay parent. People may assume that being a parent of two gays is depriving the kids to feel the love from both sides, if there is no mother. Despite repeated assertions to the contrary, studies indicate significant differents between homosexual and heterosexual parenting outcome for the children. One of the largest pro-gay studies found that children raised by homosexual couples had the worst outcome in terms of education and social adjustment. Children raised by cohabiting couples were better, but those raised by married couples. The kids may have a difficult time because there are not that much of a difference if there are two gay dads. If this should happen, kids will not be able to enjoy the company of well-balanced adults. On the contrary, children must have role models from both the father and the mother (Shares, 2017).

For both the parents to be gay it can totally confuse a kid. The act of allowing gays to become parents will likely raise confusion in children. This will particularly promote confusion among them, which can have a negative impact when they will begin building their own family. Same-sex relationships are much more unstable and short-lived than heterosexual relationships (Christians, 2016). Kids are being bullied at the school. Even if gay marriage is already legalized, not all accept and embrace this practice, particularly kids. Opponents of gay marriage claim that making this marriage between homosexuals legal can bring problems in the future especially when children are involved. Children of homosexuals and lesbians may be prone to bullying at schools and some even end up being physically hurt by other kids.

Conclusion

There may be advantages and disadvantages of being a gay parent but that is what made up being a parent to kids who need loving and supporting parents. Yes there may be difficulty and hardships that gay couple feels, but they cannot let it in the way of raising the kids. When other people judge them for raising kids and they know they will be the main concern for them is the kids, without a opposite sex they may feel that they are lacking in ways but they do all they can to reach the level of needs of their kids whenever. There are a lot of misunderstanding and miscommunication between people but if they can take the time to know gay parents they may understand and experience what they go through. Even if the job as a parent is hard, they can build the confident of a kid whether they are raising as by straight parents or gay parents the result may be the same.