Contemporary Struggles of Being a Man in Modern Society

Men in their masculinity are now under more critical scrutiny than ever from being invisible just a generation ago. Men are in the Spotlight, and it is a harsh and unforgiving Spotlight that is the biggest change to have happened in human society in terms of identity ever, to be sure, social media is certainly contributing to this scrutiny. One trying to copy other attractive men.

Iit is important to understand that there is no one. But many how many is impossible to say, but in any society or community, there will be dozens, if not hundreds operating. In fact, no two men are totally alike where we do see similarities as when men try to copy each other, that is. They imagine that they should emulate what they've been taught or come to understand as a dominant and powerful way of being a man, how a proper man behaves, sociologists refer to this as hegemonic masculinity or a dominant discourse of masculinity, such ways of being a man are, however. Not biological, but social. They are learned they are not in a man's dna too. Using social media the right way social media gives additional tools to shape public perception. But I think far more, it gives tools for men to seek out other men and to have a better view of what it means to be a man before social media, we had such a narrow set of options to see what it meant to be a man, mainly tv and movies. So no social media hasn't destroyed, and it may very well be what saves it. TV has long portrayed essentially two views of males is the bumbling idiot. Incompetent sidekick to the female of the house like homer Simpson. He is there to make money and generally stay out of the way. 

The second stereotype is the alpha male. Totally emotionally dysfunctional, strong, attractive, violent, but ultimately does some good for the society, like James b what it means to be a man is a super subjective thing that has normally been decided by the elders of a village or the ruling class of city, they were able to set up the systems young males needed to pass through to become a man. Often by either military or in apprenticeship. These systems are no longer clear rights of passage, and even further men have essentially disappeared from the home. And so young males no longer see the work of their fathers. Fathers come home tired and have little time to devote to allowing their children to shadow them and see how to become a man friends, such as self identification and gender roles, and huge pressure against typically male behaviors like competitiveness and aggression. Go further to create confusion about what it means to be a man and how to go about becoming, not controlling your animal instincts as long as humans seek, and there is a strong legal system, there isn't a lot of need for rampant competitiveness and aggression. It's sad though there are so many immature males who simply have no idea how to pursue their instinctual desire for manhood, no matter how much women or other males try to shame the maleness out of them. It just won't work. Those males subvert those desires, and they express in love for violence and anger. As a society. We just keep locking people up and don't see the anger as a clue of the sadness and fear. It is signaling. Many men are psychologically vulnerable as a consequence of their type of masculinity, becoming, if not quite extinct, been something much worse, unwanted. Pitiful and ridiculous. Many of these men will react violently because they feel under threat. In fact, they are not under threat at all. You just need to readjust their sense of being a man and their behavior along with it towards a much more liberal and open minded way of being male for not developing your emotional intelligence, they need to drop any attempts, a tough guy, and they need to stop resorting to violence when angry. This century is seeing the rise of women, with some using degenerate ways to make it to the top. Many men will get left behind. You can see them everywhere, such lost males are now prone to depression, suicide, criminality. Alcohol, loneliness and social isolation, no careers. Not even a decent job, no money, no relationships, no social responsibility. Many now realize they are in fact better off in prison, sad, but true. They have to change or become extinct. 

Unfortunately, we can see that too many men with toxic masculine behavior find it hard to change, and therefore, they end up killing themselves, resorting to drinking and drugs, and or being incarcerated in prison for many years, whatever they are of no use to society, and so there is every likelihood that they will eventually disappear.