Teenage Marriage: Positive and Negative Sides

As example, from 00s to 70s expenses during that time are not high it is totally enough if every month they just only earn about 70 $ for the family so teenagers at that time can do a part time job after school and earn enough for his family. But nowdays, it is totally different because everything are expensive and to build a family you must have a good financial status and it means you have to haved a certificate to make sure you have a good job. They are three causes why teenage marriage are not a good idea which are, financial problem, lack of life experience and don’t know how to balance between families and friends.

The first cause of why teenage marriage are not a good idea is because, financial problem. we are live in an era that required money to move anything so as we know most of teenager are totally broke it is because they are, jobless and only hope a help from their parents. According to Brownfield. A ( 2017 October 1st ) teens need their parents to provide stability in their turbulent lives. When someone get married they are totally not their parents responsible anymore it has to be their own responsibility to find a money for their family. So that’s why it is totally not a good idea for a teenage to get married unless they have their own business and stable financial status. It is also to make sure there are no issue between your partner in the future that can ruin your marriage.

Other than that cause of why teenage marriage are not a good idea is because, lack of life experience. Teenage is a third stage of human life and a first stage of human can think equally. It means they are still young and soft to adapt a big problem. Whenever they can’t find a solution of their problems they will act first without thinking the effect of the decision they have made and end up it will bring to divorce.

According to Pratap ( 2016 December 10th ) most of the teenage marriages fail because people at this age are still immature to make the most important decisions like marriage. It is better to get married at adult age because when were in teenage moment its actually a time for someone to enjoy their life and a beginning to start knowing world but not a time to have a family.

Last but not least, cause of why teenage marriage are not a good idea is because, don’t know how to balance between families and friends. As we know teenager are likely more spent their time with friends compare to family and sometimes they even trust friend more than family. So whenever they get married they still feel they can enjoy like before as example, chat with friends at mamak’s stall untill late morning, go for a riding trip on weekend and etc. According to Smart Teenagers (2009) most teenagers who marry don’t fully grasp the meaning of commitment. Imagine if one day they had a children and one of them are acting like this, it totally will affect the child because they didn’t get enough attention since baby.

In a nutshell, this essay tell that the causes of why teenage marriage are not a good idea is because, financial problem, lack of life experience and don’t know how to balance between families and friends. Marry at a young have their own pros and cons but teenager have to be smart in making a decision as example, make sure your financial status is in good condition before you get married and find someone that willing to stay with you even you are not in a good condition, not someone that stayed with you when you were rich and handsome only. By having a good plan and trust the marriages will stay last long eventhough its all start when both of you are still teenager.

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