Language and Gender – The Issues I Faced with on Arriving to America

“The greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it.” Molière.

When I came to the US, There were many obstacles in my life as Language and Gender Issues. I have never imagined my life here. When I came here, I faced a lot of problems. My most big problems were language, a lake of confidence because of Gender Issues.

My first problem that was my language, because my native language is Urdu. I had not spoken proper English in my life before I came to the USA. I had good listening but on the other hand, I didn't speak English. I always felt shy whenever I want to speak English. I always felt hesitant to talked to anybody because of my poor English. I remember that time when I have to make an appointment with my doctor. I was very nervous at that time. I didn't know how to explain my problem to the receptionist. Then I ask my brother to make an appointment on behalf of me. I had always visited my doctor with someone who can explain my problems to them. That was so embarrassing for me. I was so fed up to asked someone talked to on my behalf and one day I decided that I'll continue my studies and learn English. So I enrolled in ACCC in 2017 to learn English. After that, I have changed my self a lot.

My second problem was the Gender Issues. I had always been shied person when I came to the USA. Sometimes I cried and asked my parents that why you bring me here? I am from Pakistan and I had raised in the different culture. In my culture girls haven't talked to the boys except form their family. In my culture, most people didn't like strange male and female interaction. I was studying in high school When I came here. I had always studied at the girls' school, While I was in Pakistan. In my country, a lot of people didn't like co-education. When I came here I hardly tried to communicate with males. I tried so hard and after sometimes I used to it. While I was studying in ACCC, I talked to the males classmates who were from the different culture. While I had been studing in ACCC, I met many male students in my ESL classes. I felt shy in the beginning. I have had to interact with them for the class work, but after some time I used to it. I made a lot of male friends there. I can't believe how that happened. But life goes on no matter what happened. Now I am comfortable to talk with males. Now the gender is no more an issue for me. Indeed, I believe that nothing is permanent and nothing is impossible.

I tried late but overcome with my obstacles. Now I'm more confident to talk to the males, and I have got some good male friends here. On the other hand, now I have better listening and speaking skills. Now I always go to the doctor by my self and explain my problem to them by my self. Life becomes so much easy. Now I am more comfortable and happy here with my family.