Parenting and Gentle Cooperation with Children

There are ways gentle parenting can use connection, empathy, and teaching that will lead children to listen to and cooperate. Through connects how parents us physical and emotional closeness by using strategies such as staying calm when child is upset this help them to co-regulate. Slowing down and not always in a rush is another way that children will listen. Ways parents can use empathy to understand children feelings through language and emotions for them to listen. How to empathize from people that aren’t able to express their feelings? What to do when your child is having a meltdown and how to show emotional coaching. The last component is teaching gentle parents believe that coercion is not effective in teaching and problem solving.

Raising children can be stressful as we show them love, care, and support. Parents want their children to follow instructions, but how do we teach children to listen. We can teach children to listen through connection with parents. Connects is building a love and trust bond with people. Connection succeeds through physical and emotional attachment. Physical separation like yelling, time out, consequences, and corporal punishment are a huge factor in damaging relationships with children. This is why gentle parenting focus on building and keeping a close relationship because there are no consequences. They also want to focus on meeting the needs of the children and not fight against the child. Kids don’t need boundaries they need connection. I disagree on not allowing children to have consequences and corporal punishment because consequence teaches children responsive behavior and taking responsibilities for their action. Corporal punishments teach children structure and discipline and make them think about their poor decision. Parents have busy lives working, cooking, and taking care of the family parent’s thing that things should be done in a timely matter. Kids don’t listen because we don’t listen to them parents should slow down and connect with interacting and seeing what activates their child is doing by communicating and asking question getting down on their level this will gain their cooperation. When spending time with your child and listening this builds a connection and allows that child to listen.

We use language to express our emotions, empathy is understanding children feelings First you have to recognize their emotions through observations without judgment and describe the situation you see. For example, if your child is overwhelmed with emotions, we might say you’re a cry baby screaming and kicking on the floor because you want a toy. The observation without judgment could be you been screaming and kicking on the floor for five minutes after I said you could not have a toy. When children are upset or have a meltdown it’s because it’s hard for children to describe their emotions. Behavior is express through communication of feeling and needs. Children use their communication like back-talking, manipulation to express their feelings. Gentle parenting responds to a child’s feelings by not look at the behavior but, focuses on the emotion that drives the behavior and how to engage in the need of the emotion. Behavior is express through communication of feeling and needs. Talking to children about their feelings and offer them strategies on how to deal with difficult situations is called emotion coaching. Parents bring up situation about why that child was upset, ex. This morning your brother took your toy. Then describe the emotion they felt, ex. You became angry. Parent offers empathy and validation for the emotion, ex. It’s upsetting when your brother take your toys. I get upset when people take my important items. In my text book Family communication states that emotional coaching focus on how parents help children deal with frustration. Emotion coaching discuss that when parents process emotional episodes with attention and corroboration of the emotion, knowing there are limits to appropriate behavior, parents are able to use these eager moments to help children learn problem solving strategies that help them cope. Empathy is used to help children communication about their feelings through listening.

In conclusion, we have high expectations for our kids we use consequences, corporal punishment, and coercive in teaching them right from wrong. Gentle parenting believe the coercive and corporal punishment is non effective in short and long term, it does more damage than good and parents should refrain from it. Parents use coercive and consequences when the child has been in trouble, the parents try to find the right consequences or coercive approach to encourage the child to do better.