Making Right Decissions: How Choices Affect Our Lives

The existence of an individual is comprised of decisions that one makes on a daily basis. From waking up in the morning at 5:30am instead of 7:00am, from eating breakfast before brushing, from choosing to wear black shoes instead of white, from going to school to see that you got a A+ on a math test, and so on. Everywhere you go, choices need to be made, whether they are conscious choices or unconscious. Although most of our decisions are made by our parents for a better and brighter future, we do start learning and choosing between several options as we get older. To a great extent, choices and actions can influence my direction of life through the courses I take and the grades I accumulate, to the people I surround myself with, and the impact of my future.

To begin with, school is a primary example of what your life will look like after high school. If one works hard and gets high grades, life will be much easier and the student would have a wide variety of options to choose from in post secondary. I, for one, have decided to enter the medical field and go into the profession of dentistry. In this matter, grades are highly looked upon. This decision was not easy to make at all. I know that I do not want to struggle as much as my parents did when they immigrated to Canada. I want something that paid enough and was entertaining. My friends, even until this day, tell me that they see me as a engineer, preferably a chemical engineer. I am really good at math and physics, which is why I understand when they bring this up. Although engineering is not a bad occupation, I do not want to go into the profession because of quick job loss and boredom. I do not want to sit inside an office completing several assignments at once. I feel like, if I do put in hard work in high school and post secondary, why not become something that I will enjoy and never get bored of. Now that I am in grade 12, my mindset keeps switching back and forth. This is obviously not good, but decisions that I make now can either affect my life in a good way or a bad way in the future. I know I really want to be a dentist, but because my friends keep bringing up engineering, I begin to doubt my decision oftenly. At this point, I am not sure if I am doing it because I want to please my parents and set an example for my younger siblings, or if I am doing it for myself and for the betterment of my future. Since I am struggling with this decision, I decided to take all the sciences, just incase.

Moving on, as I mentioned above, grades do matter. I believe that no one in high school can be classified as smart. It is the hard work that a student puts in that gets them far in life. I remember there was a time last year where a teacher told me that I might not have a chance in dentistry, as it is very competitive. He told me that there are only two students in our school that might have a chance, due to their grades. Those two individuals actually do not want to go into the medical field at all. That day was quite upsetting for me. It made me doubt my abilities. From that day, I pushed harder, and tried my best to do good in school. At the end of the semester my grades were very, very high. In math 20-1, I finished with a 95% and in ELA 20-1, I finished with a 90%. From this experience, it proves that there is no such thing as being born smart, it is the hard work that an individual puts in that gets them anywhere in life. Therefore, to a great extent, choices and actions can influence my direction of life through the courses I take and the grades I accumulate. One cannot undo the past, but they can definitely learn from it. My family and friends have been a great supporter of my future and my current life as well. They have told me several times that I can do anything that I put my mind towards.

My life in the past was very tough. Tough in terms of me failing in school and not being good at anything. I remember, there was a time in grade 5 where my mom volunteered for a field trip that my class was going on. I remember when she came inside the building and the teacher went up to her and took her into a room. She told her that I was failing terribly in my classes and that I would not pass grade 5. That night, I heard my mom telling my dad. It was quite upsetting. I am the oldest child, and if I fail in life, what would my siblings learn? I remember on that day, I told myself that I would try harder; to be better. Fast forward to me today, I have a total grade average of 88%. Although my grade average is decent, there are times that I get discouraged and feel like I am no good, this is where my friends come in. They always motivate me and tell me that I am who I chose to be. Giving up is not the way to go, and if I want to reach my goal, I have to take the right steps. Therefore, to a great extent, choices and actions can influence my direction of life through the people I surround myself with. High school only happens once in an individual’s life, therefore it is important to make each experience count. When an individual first walks through the doors, everything seems quite confusing. To better understand what high school is like, comparing it to a bridge is very helpful. High school is like a bridge between childhood and real life. If you lose track, you fall off the bridge and are unable to do much after that. An example that occurred in my life that connects to this concept; when I was in grade 11, English classes were always something I dreaded going to. The reason being, no matter how much I tried, I would never be satisfied with the marks I received. Although this was the problem, I never gave up. I finished the course quite badly but I still had hope. I retook the course during the summer and finished with 90%. From this, I learned that giving up is never an option. Whenever someone is demotivated, I always share this story. I always tell them that if I can do it, so can too. English and social are two subjects that I struggle with. The rest, like math and sciences, are my strong points. The reason being, these subjects are fixed, they never change. No matter what type of math or science problem is thrown at you, there is always a fixed procedure on how to solve it.

All in all, it is important to never give up, because there is still hope. High school only happens once in an individual’s life, therefore it is important to work hard in it but also have fun. To a great extent, choices and actions can influence my direction of life through my high school experience as it will eventually impact of my future. To a great extent, choices and actions can influence my direction of life through the courses I take and the grades I accumulate, to the people I surround myself with, and the impact of my future. The existence of an individual are comprised of decisions that one makes on a daily basis. From waking up in the morning at 5:30am instead of 7:00am, from eating breakfast before brushing, from choosing to wear black shoes instead of white, from going to school to see that you got a A+ on a math test, and so on. Everywhere you go, choice need to be made, whether they are conscious choices or unconscious. Although most of our decisions are made by our parents for a better and brighter future, we do start learning and choosing between several options as we get older. Working hard and enjoying the time we have in the moment is crucial, high school only occurs once in an individual’s life, therefore it is important to go down the right path the right way.

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