The Reasons Why Men/women Refuse to Get Married

Why men/women refuse to get married? Marriage is considered one of the great things of life. But, not everyone is interested in it. There are people who want to marry but some do not hurry to stick with anyone. Paradoxically, there are more and more people are afraid of marriage. When I asked my 27-year-old elder sister why she likes to be single, she told me calmly, "I'll tell you seven reasons why I and many others do not want to get married. When you finish hearing, you sympathize with us. "

Not getting married allows you to live a completely free life. I can do thing in either right or wrong way without fear of anyone judging or influencing negatively on my spouse. Though making yourself a priority seems to be a selfish thought, it really just means that I want to focus on developing myself well. While marriage is depending on each other for happiness, living alone is being independent.

One of the biggest problems couples dealing with is the financial situation. Yet, no married couple is sure that they will not quarrel over money matters during their years together. In an instant, countless spending burns your salaries, bonuses and savings: diapers for babies, gifts for this and that occasion, a Southeast facing home or a 7-seater SUVs. Thus, a lot of people choose not to get married to avoid undue financial conflicts. Self-consumption and self-savings are enough, or generally they do not like sharing financial situation with anyone else.

Who says marriage is the best way to prove to your partner that you love them so much? There are various ways to show love and marriage is just one of them. My sister is still beside her long-time boyfriend but never mentioned marriage as the best way to express her love to him. Instead, they give each other small gifts or sometimes escape for long holiday together.

Yes, no one can deny the fact that people who are not bothered about family issues tend to travel more than those who are married. Definitely, no woman want her weekends covered fully by her sister-in-law’s wedding, her grandfather-in-law's death anniversary, or the frightening family reunion. Rather than hang around the kitchen with pots and pans, they want to have plenty of time to be here and there to explore.

Marriage will change many things in one’s life such as relations with family, relatives and friends, which makes one feel she is living in a different world. However, they are not prepared well enough to confront these matters in the married life. That is why so many people, especially women in the East, choose a safe way: not get married until watching and understanding all the TVB drama series of family’s inheritance-fighting.

Instead of spending on a lavish pre-wedding photoshoot underneath the Eiffel tower, a honeymoon in Maldives or new IKEA furniture, couples can use this budget to build a start-up, invest on stock markets or make little profit for themselves at least. For example, an individual can pay for a financial literacy course with a hope that he can double that little principal money in the long run. At the moment your financial goal is achieved, if you decide to get married, it is not too late.

There are too many problems in my sister’s personal life that make she imagine of breaking up with her future husband. Indeed, the higher divorce rate causes this common anxiety for couples. They go away from marriage because they panic the divorce. Then why do a man needs to marry a woman if anyway, separation is simply to complete the divorce procedures? To sum up, there are many reasons for one to refuse to get married because everyone has a different perspective of how to live and love. You neither have to be like someone nor imitate what they do when you do not feel like it. As marriage is one of the greatest thing in life, do not let anyone control who you are married to and when to marry. You are the only one to decide and be responsible for your decision.