Why You Should Express Your Anger

Anger is one of the most compelling emotions that a human being can experience. Whether we feel it or not, secretly express it or not, anger is always right around the corner filling our heads discontentment. The emotion seizes us whenever we feel generally unsatisfied. Some people when they experience anger, they usually keep it to themselves until it collects and causes them to outburst. An example of this can be demonstrated in the story “The Pearl” by John Steinbeck when, Kino expresses his anger by punching the gate with his fist leading to the doctor’s house, after the doctor denies Kino’s family request to cure their child. There was once a saying in the Buddhist religion that ‘Holding onto anger is like holding onto a hot coal the intention of throwing it at someone else. After all, you are the one who gets burnt’, so why bother keeping it to yourself.

Most of the time, anger is what people tell themselves about things that magnifies their emotions. If you can get the feeling out quickly, you will not stew up additional thoughts in your head. Anger is usually less intense than if you waited for it to build up inside. A controllable emotion is more convenient to work with than uncontrolled ones. Most people tell you to wait when you’re right on the edge of breaking point, so you don’t do something you will regret later. However doing so is like planting a live explosive of stress inside you. Suppressing your anger can lead to many illness such as, heart disease, depression, anxiety and migraine, all of which are caused by stress.

Stress can also frequently result in an outburst of emotions. Expressing anger to someone early is often not regrettable, but keeping it boiling inside is. When other people share emotions that relates to a situation that just happened, some individuals do not use their time to make full understanding about the situation. Instead, they take that time and store those thoughts inside them to cook it into stress. Eventually they will blow up with a minor incident at some point. When we explode with subdued feelings, most of the time the receiving opponent is left confused. Wondering where did all this emotion come from. This is usually how conflict starts out with repressed anger.

Half the times people got angry at someone it was because of a misunderstanding. They interpreted what other people said in a wrong way. Sharing anger rather than ignoring it, will give people opportunity to explain. When you are put into a situation that makes you feel indignant and you keep storing your thoughts inside you. You can’t expect other people to be able to read your mind. They cannot know that something bothers you unless you express to them how you feel. When your anger is expressed, you may be surprised that they can help fix the issue. Expressing your emotions can trigger a change. If an individual set an example by sharing their feelings, it will be easier for their surrounding people to follow suit. By doing so, they will receive the same benefits. Not only you will become more healthier emotionally, but them as well. Your relationship with the society will become stronger.

In conclusion, anger is a perilous emotion that should not be kept inside your head. The reason most people that keep their emotion to themselves is because they are afraid of rejection. The truth is that you can only build strong relationships with people around you by being vulnerable, honest and authentic about your emotions. When it’s stored inside, the emotion will repressed until eventually will result in an outburst.