Divorce, Its Causes, Effects, and Solutions

Divorce is a serious issue that most married couples are facing today or in other words it is the outcome that we are seeing couples that are married go through due to several reasons. Therefore, This paper will be elaborating more on what divorce means which is the issue whereas two couples split, some of the reasons why this issue is occurring, we will also be looking at the influence or impacts that this issue have towards children, how the children that are experiencing and witnessing this problem cope with it and lastly is getting to learn about some of the solutions or strategies that can help minimize the effect of this issue.

According to the book Divorce, “Many married couples who do not divorce have nonetheless thought about it. Among those who are married, a 2008 Robber Poll found that 33% have at some points considered divorce”. This explains that it is an issue that occurs when couples split due to different circumstances. It has its advantages and disadvantages towards the life of the children. Containing of how they could attempt suicide, bothering them for the rest of their life and could affect their way of living. On the other hand it could built up the children to be a better individual regardless of their upbringing as well as learning what is right from wrong and lastly there are strategies that can help overcome this issue.

In Mathew 19:4-6, “Jesus states that a man and a women joined in marriage are one flesh and therefore God has joined together, let not man separate”. Divorce to me is a general term to describe a complex process of the parting of a union. Divorce has several factors behind it and to many it can have alternate definitions. Personally I think divorce is rather simple to understand if you take the literal definition of separation. To each, their own, when defining definition because for some it is a gateway to peace and for others it is a wall to the bridge to true happiness. It is hard to pinpoint a specific reason as to why divorce takes place but there are several reasons for this to take place. National surveys indicate that 15 percent of married women and 25 percent of married men have had extramarital affairs. The incidence is about 2 percent higher hen emotional and sexual relationships without intercourse arc included.

As more women began working outside the home, their chances of having an affair have increased accordingly.” I think divorce happens because of many reasons including infidelity. This prove that some couples split is because of this unfaithful actions, and I feel that the reason why this happened might be one of the couples tend to be unfaithful to their spouse and can lead to this negative influence. According to Mathew Warren, “Sex is an important part or romantic relationships — and is people are not on the same page at out their sex life, it can become a source of frustration. “The dissatisfaction from partners is another reason why divorce occurs after marriage and it is ashamed when we think of it. I feel that it is actually ashamed when we think of it, two individuals get married because they love each other and they will make sure they are on the same page in terms of understanding and do what they both agreed on to it and it 1S ashamed when we look at it and we see these type of actions happened and in the end divorce will be the only way to deal with it.

The inability to come to terms with reality is another thing that we all needs to understand about in terms of having patient and being able to let go what the cause of a problem would be. It is also a way that showcase the idea that what the other spouse is tending to do to the other is will actually come back to that person no matter what the consequences would be. In an interview with one of the student that have experienced this issue, “You would expect a spousal separation to largely impact the children involved, but my experience was unique, in that although I was affected, it wasn’t necessarily in a negative manner. My parents’ separation was fairly amicable, and even after the split, they still managed to remain good friends and colleagues. I think the hardest part for me was the change in routine, but even then, it wasn’t too difficult a transition due to how supportive both my parents were during the changes. The most important part for them during the transition, was their kids. And so even though there were disagreements, the choices they made were always in the best interest of me and my siblings”. In addition undoubtedly and inevitably, divorce will have an impact on all parties involved.

Children are not exempt from this. Children will be affected because they are going to need to adjust to the changes in their normal routines. They may get feelings of relief or maybe feelings of depression. Depending on the situation prior to the divorce, the impact is bound to vary. Therefore, kids might also feel a sense of guilt for their parents’ divorce or they may feel a sense of incompleteness because their parents are not together anymore. Unfortunately, there are immeasurable impacts of divorce on children but nonetheless it could be bad, good, or a combination of both on the children’s well being. In an article about divorce counse1ing,“Well, a divorce counselor can guide you through this painful and uncertain time, while providing you with the tools you need to move on in a positive and healthy way. In addition, he/she can teach you how to resume a fulfilling post-divorce life and minimize the impact on your children. He/she can also help you better understand why your relationship failed, so you don’t repeat your mistakes”. In my explanation, divorce is sometimes necessary. If it happens, it was obviously for a reason. People don't generally get a divorce for fun or because they can. There are usually events leading up to a divorce those overall influences the decision. To lessen the problems affiliated with divorce, one can simply seek guidance. Guidance can be in the form of family, friends, or professionals.

To overcome divorce, one could talk to individuals who have also been through the process. Therapy is a common form of treatment in society today and it seems to help individuals cope with their own found problems. Divorce is also an issue that does not have to be painful. It is understood to be a problem that deals with many emotions and because of that it might seem very hard to cope with. In conclusion I believe that divorce is a serious issue that many of people are facing today and I strongly feel that it is not an easy pathway as aforementioned however; humans are emotional but can get through grieving in several methods such as believing in a higher power, recreation, and self-love. We just have to cope with it in terms of making the right choice as well as making the right move when problems like this occurs.